Keeping it REAL

I attended another session organized by Inner Space, this time it was all about people skills. It was just an hour in the evening and while the Sunday talk had been surprisingly well attended, only four other people were in attendance this time.

Isn't it weird how I am terrible at summarizing anything? Whether that's films, books or events like this. When writing minutes used to be a big part of my job. And I like to think that I was rather good at it, too!

Anyhow, I won't even attempt to summarize the evening, but instead I'll just note a few ideas (not necessarily new) that I took with me:
We are not our behaviour or our thoughts.We create them.
Challenges come along to test us. If we are resolving to work on our people skills, we will encounter difficult people. And we can show whether we really want to change our behaviour.
R-espect: try to look for at one good thing in the other person
E-mpathy: empathize without getting emotionally involved. Detach with love. When you get into a disagreement, put yourself into the other person's shoes. And then try to find a solution rather than falling out.
A-ccept: Letting other people be themselves. Recall a time when you felt accepted and a time when you didn't. When dealing with difficult people, pretend you are meeting them for the first time.
L-isten: Really listen and be in the moment. We spend most of the time in the past or the future, but not in the present moment.

Our negativity is learned behaviour which we can un-learn again. We all have a peaceful, loving and happy being. And if we can see it in ourselves, we will start to see it in others, too.
We usually can only see 10% of the other person and base our judgement on these 10% - when 90% isn't visible to us.